For several years prior to 2021 I was unintentionally losing weight. I mentioned it to the doctor at my annual checkups, but he did not find anything that concerned him. Finally in the fall of 2021 I decided I needed to take intentional action to maintain my current weight and then gain some pounds.
I made it the top priority in my prayers for wisdom, and researched the subject. Then on November 26, 2021, I wrote in my wisdom workbook this prayer concerning one particular nutritional question: “What kind of fat should I eat, and how much of it? Should I eat coconut oil? Should I eat bison meat?” That morning I fasted, not eating breakfast, and I had not eaten since dinner the night before. I spent several hours waiting on God in prayer to see if he would bring anything to mind, but no answers came.
On December 1st and 3rd, two things happened that I concluded might be partial answers to my questions, so I recorded them in my workbook. But I still did not feel I had definite wisdom, so on December 9th, while fasting since dinner the night before, I spent almost eight hours waiting on the Lord regarding this inquiry. I did not have any dramatic breakthroughs, but I came away with the settled impression that exercise was as important as what I was eating.
On December 30th, I found several helpful articles and videos on exercise, and I modified my regular workouts accordingly, with an emphasis on strength and resistance training. On January 1, 2022, I lowered the priority of this question.
Since then my weight has increased several pounds, and my overall strength and conditioning has improved significantly. With the wisdom gained from the research, I now know how to eat and gain weight when needed, and feel as though my current weight and food habits are healthy. I still pray now and then about specific foods and exercises, but I believe God has overall answered the prayer I made for wisdom begun in 2021.
We do not have to pray for eight hours or fast from food every time we need wisdom. Still, sometimes, when a question is extremely important to us and our previous prayers have not yet been answered, we may need to seek God more earnestly. Then, if God does not give us any specific guidance, we can be confident it is not yet his time for us to know what we are asking. He wants us to wait patiently on him for his perfect time.
The above story is from my new book, Know: A Workbook for Gaining Wisdom from God about Everything That Matters to You. Buy it on Amazon today and gain the wisdom you need for your most challenging situations.
I want to tell you the story of how my new book came about. It is titled Know, and last week it released on Amazon.
The book is the product of praying for wisdom. Two or three years ago, I concluded that I would probably not be able to publish any more books through established publishing companies. I had been working for several years with an agent to find a publisher for another book I had written, but nothing fell into place, and the agent eventually stopped working with me. I did not want to waste months or years trying to find another agent and then more time finding a publisher.
So I wrote this prayer in my inquiring-of-God journal: “Lord, give me wisdom how to publish my books to bring you glory and advance your kingdom and truth in the maximum way possible.” I spoke that prayer numerous times over several years.
In the Fall of 2023, in the middle of one night, I was lying in bed awake and thinking. I had already written a series of blog posts on the subject of praying for wisdom, and as I laid in bed I was thinking about how I could repackage these and add value. That is when the idea came to self-publish this content as a book. I had never self-published a book before and never had any desire to do so.
But at this moment the idea germinated in me—with excitement. I was not worried about how many copies the book would sell or how I would spread the news about it. I wanted to pass on what has been so helpful to me. I figured if I could give a copy to each member of my family and leave copies to my heirs as a heritage, and if the members of my church and the readers of my blog read it, that would be worthwhile.
At the same time, the idea came to make this a workbook, a journal. I had already experienced the difference journaling had made in my successful prayers for wisdom. Moreover I had experienced the power of God’s Word to inspire faith as I had memorized many scriptures on this subject. I realized what would be most helpful to readers would be to combine and rework the material I had already written into a book with space for journaling. Every journaling page would feature a promise from God.
All this came together in about 20 minutes, and it came with excitement.
I wrote in my inquiring-for-wisdom journal: “Answer: Create a workbook for inquiring of the Lord.”
Almost a year later, I invite you to read the final product:
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The title of my book is “Know: A Workbook for Gaining Wisdom from God about Everything That Matters to You.” It releases on Amazon next Monday, September 14th, in hardback, for $14.
Below is an excerpt from my new book “Know,” releasing on Amazon on September 16, 2024
Stuck
Recently I was stumped by a technology problem. Our church does not have a building or office space, and so I work from the office in my apartment. Our church also relies on volunteers for bookkeeping, and I oversee the process of our monthly financial records. That means each month I transfer computer files back and forth to our volunteers.
For many years we have transferred files using the cloud (through the internet). Well, recently when I began training a new volunteer, I could not get that to work. It was evening, we were wasting time, and I was frustrated. I decided to end our training session and solve things the next day. Before going to bed, I prayed for wisdom.
The next day I prayed again for wisdom and then began to ponder how to solve the problem. Quickly the answer came to me. It was so simple I am embarrassed to say it. We needed to stop transferring files via the cloud and just use a flash drive, which we could hand back and forth when we transfer the bank statement and other financial documents. For a long time we had been using a system that was unnecessarily complicated. Mentally I had been accustomed to it, so I needed God to open my mind to other options. When I prayed for wisdom, that is what he did.
More Answers
Would I have found that solution without asking for wisdom? All I know is, I regularly get stuck and stay stuck and frustrated with problems large and small—until I pray for wisdom. Then, in God’s timing, the answer suddenly comes to me, in ways that seem normal and natural—rarely dramatic. Usually the answers seem so unsurprising that I wonder why I had not thought of them earlier. Everything works better for me when I ask God for wisdom.
Knowing God
Learning to pray for wisdom for everything that matters to you is an important way to know God practically, in daily experience, as someone you can rely on to help you. Knowing God and his ways is not just an intellectual experience; it is also a lived experience of prayer, trust, and dependence. If we know how to explain God doctrinally but do not know how to depend on him for what we need, we are missing something important and wonderful.
My new book on inquiring of God releases in two weeks!
On Monday, September 16, 2024, my new book titled Know: A Workbook for Gaining Wisdom from God about Everything That Matters to You releases on Amazon, in hardback, for $14.
I believe it can build your faith to pray for wisdom and thereby change your life. Most importantly, as I wrote above, it will help you know and walk better with God.
If you desire wisdom, the question is not whether God also wants you to have it, but rather whether you will ask, seek, and knock for however long it takes.
Jesus said, “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks it will be opened.” (Matthew 7:7–8)
This is a lifestyle that Jesus commends to us, the asking, seeking, knocking way of living. He approves of this approach to daily life. It pleases him, and he responds to it, as shown in the Bible from beginning to end and in the ministry of Jesus to people who came to him asking, seeking, knocking. “What must I do to inherit eternal life?” “Lord, let me recover my sight.” “My little daughter is at the point of death. Come and lay your hands on her.” “Lord, if you will, you can make me clean.”
For those of us who seek wisdom from God with specific questions, it is especially important for us to believe that and practice it. Those who desire wisdom need to ask, seek, and knock persistently. Those qualities need to be our mindset, our approach to life. Moreover, we must know that our gracious God delights in those who live this way.
A life of seeking wisdom
Each of these three ideas is important. They overlap, but are not the same.
At the heart of the mindset that Jesus commends, though, is seeking. Those who seek with all their heart ask and look and knock.
What Jesus commends and what therefore pleases God is an approach to life marked by exploration, learning, discovery—the quest for wisdom from Christ.
The opposite is complacency and self-satisfaction. Feeling we already know what we need to know. Being wise in one’s own eyes. A lack of curiosity. An unwillingness to think and experiment.
Mary the seeker of wisdom from Christ
Mary exemplifies a mindset of seeking more wisdom.
Luke 10:38–42 says, “Now as they went on their way, Jesus entered a village. And a woman named Martha welcomed him into her house. And she had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet and listened to his teaching. But Martha was distracted with much serving. And she went up to him and said, ‘Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her then to help me.’ But the Lord answered her, ‘Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, but one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her.’” (ESV)
Mary made a choice to put priority on seeking wisdom. She sat at Jesus feet and listened because she wanted wisdom and sought wisdom. Seeking requires effort, discipline, and the setting of priorities. Martha had other commendable priorities, but seeking wisdom was not as important for her as it was for Mary.
A seeker recognizes a golden opportunity, and a golden source, for learning when it comes. Jesus is golden. The Scriptures are golden. The presence of the Holy Spirit is golden.
The scribe who asked for wisdom from Christ
One scribe exemplifies asking Jesus his burning question.
“One of the scribes came up and heard them disputing with one another, and seeing that he answered them well, asked him, ‘Which commandment is the most important of all?’ Jesus answered, ‘The most important is, “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.” The second is this: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” There is no other commandment greater than these.’ And the scribe said to him, ‘You are right, Teacher. You have truly said that he is one, and there is no other besides him. And to love him with all the heart and with all the understanding and with all the strength, and to love one’s neighbor as oneself, is much more than all whole burnt offerings and sacrifices.’ And when Jesus saw that he answered wisely, he said to him, ‘You are not far from the kingdom of God.’” (Mark 12:28–34, ESV)
Studying the Law was this man’s life. For many years he had pondered the hundreds of laws contained in God’s covenant with Israel and recognized that while all God’s laws are important, some are more important, and some must capture the heart of all the laws. But which were these preeminent commands? Fear God? Serve God? Worship God? Trust God?
One’s burning question
When this sudden opportunity came to this scribe to hear Jesus, he recognized something extraordinary. But he didn’t stop at listening and admiring—he asked his burning question. And because he asked, he received an answer. And because he believed what Jesus answered, he received commendation from Jesus.
Seekers have the humility to ask. To ask questions is to admit you do not know everything. To ask questions of God is to show you believe he has the answers. James 1:5 says, “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God.” To ask is to admit you lack.
Those who seek and ask please God. He enjoys those who are on a quest, who love and desire more wisdom, who want to learn and do something for God and with God. Seeking and asking from God glorifies him.
The thief who knocked
The condemned man nailed to the cross beside Jesus exemplifies a person who knocks at the door.
He did not begin that way. At first he joined the other condemned criminal in reviling Jesus (Matthew 27:44). But as he hung on the cross and beheld Jesus and heard his words, he had a change of heart. When the other criminal continued to rail at Jesus, the man “rebuked him, saying, ‘Do you not fear God, since you are under the same sentence of condemnation? And we indeed justly, for we are receiving the due reward of our deeds; but this man has done nothing wrong.’ And he said, ‘Jesus, remember me when you come into your kingdom.’” (Luke 23:40–42)
This condemned man did not say, “if you come into your kingdom,” but rather, “when you come into your kingdom.” He believed. He believed what the sign said, the sign nailed above the head of Jesus. In spite of what was happening to Jesus, the criminal believed that he really was the King of Israel, and not just a human king about to lose any chance at reigning on the throne, but rather the heavenly King, the Christ who would someday rule as the King of God’s kingdom.
And he recognized the opportunity. He wanted something, and he recognized a door by which he might get it.
Knocking
Knocking at a door is a multifaceted metaphor. Doors keep unwelcome people out of a building, or they allow welcome people in. Doors can be locked, and doors can be opened. Thus doors can be opportunities, or disappointments.
But the man wanted in, into the kingdom, and so he knocked. This thief did not merely seek and ask for knowledge and wisdom. He asked Jesus to do something for him. He asked a favor and sought the Lord’s grace.
Such requests please and glorify God, and he smiles on them. Jesus opened the door wide, answering him: “Truly, I say to you, today you will be with me in paradise” (Luke 23:43). No instruction, but an open door into a world of wisdom.
Knocking on doors means asking for the opportunity to cooperate with others. Those who knock know they cannot obtain what they desire without others. It means asking for help, permission, entrance. It requires boldness, courage, initiative, assertion. You may be ignored and rejected, but your desire is strong enough to risk that.
We knock on doors on earth with people, institutions, and organizations, but if we do it prayerfully and seeking what we desire ultimately from God, we are actually knocking on heaven’s door.
Takeaways
1. Jesus wants, invites, encourages, and welcomes us to seek. He wants us to assume it is God’s will to answer those who pursue and persevere. God’s default attitude toward those on a quest is to answer, because he is gracious (Exodus 34:6).
2. Therefore there is something in our asking, seeking, and knocking for wisdom that pleases God. And there is something in our having and using wisdom that pleases God. Both fulfill his will and bring him glory.
3. Therefore the Father’s children are called to be inquirers, explorers, learners, discoverers, people on a quest for wisdom and entrance.
4. If you desire wisdom, the question is not whether God also wants you to have it, but rather whether you will have enough faith to keep asking, seeking, and knocking for however long it takes.
Jeremiah 9:23–24: “Thus says the LORD: ‘Let not the wise man boast in his wisdom, let not the mighty man boast in his might, let not the rich man boast in his riches, but let him who boasts boast in this, that he understands and knows me, that I am the LORD who practices steadfast love, justice, and righteousness in the earth. For in these things I delight, declares the LORD.’” (ESV)
Do we need to ask God for wisdom when the way forward seems obvious?
If we trust God and persevere, sooner or later he fulfills his promises. We come to a turning point when our hopes near their fulfillment. The company for which you have always wanted to work gives you a job interview. The person in whom you have romantic interest agrees to a date. The big-ticket item you have long wanted to own goes on sale, and you have saved enough to buy it. The university you would love to attend accepts your application.
At times like these, who needs to pray about it? Who needs special wisdom? The way seems clear. And we might fear that God will communicate something we do not want to hear.
But when David came to such a hoped-for turning point, he had a different approach.
When doors open
The turning point for him came when King Saul died in battle. For years the insanely jealous king had been trying to kill David. Suddenly there was a power vacuum in the nation. Who would be the next king? David had been a famous battle hero, the man who slew Goliath, the man who as a military commander had victories wherever he turned. When he returned from battle, the women sang, “Saul has slain his thousands, David his tens of thousands.”
Even more important, years before this turn of events the prophet Samuel had anointed him with oil to be king. At this propitious point, how natural it would have been for David to rely on his own wisdom and pursue his personal desire.
But David had a better approach.
Even when the next step seems obvious, check in with God
Second Samuel 2:1–4 says:
“After this David inquired of the LORD, ‘Shall I go up into any of the cities of Judah?’ And the LORD said to him, ‘Go up.’ David said, ‘To which shall I go up?’ And he said, ‘To Hebron.’ So David went up there, and his two wives also, Ahinoam of Jezreel and Abigail the widow of Nabal of Carmel. And David brought up his men who were with him, everyone with his household, and they lived in the towns of Hebron. And the men of Judah came, and there they anointed David king over the house of Judah.”
The takeaway from this story is, when turning points come that are the desire of one’s heart, we should still inquire of God for wisdom before we move forward. We need the Lord’s wisdom for matters like what to do, how to do it, and when to do it.
In David’s case, there were no surprises in what God revealed. It made sense to go into Judah because David was of the tribe of Judah; the people would probably look for a new leader; and they would be more likely to choose someone who is present. Furthermore it made sense to move into Hebron because it was a leading city.
Q & A
One further takeaway from this story is what it reveals about God’s answers to questions. God succinctly answered David’s questions and stopped. He gave two answers, each comprising two words (in English).
David: “Shall I go up into any of the cities of Judah?”
The Lord: “Go up.”
David: “To which shall I go up?”
The Lord: “To Hebron.”
Of course, God works differently in different times and situations, but here at least he did not give many step-by-step instructions. He was willing to tell David which city he should move to, but he did not say that until David in his second question asked specifically. And that was the end of what God wanted to reveal.
The lesson for us is, pray for wisdom specifically. Begin at the beginning without making any assumptions. Then request specifics. In this way, you walk in surrender to the Lord and acknowledge his rule. In his time he will tell you as much wisdom as he wants you to know.
When we cannot wait
Of course in many situations if we do not feel that God has communicated further wisdom to us, we cannot wait. We have to decide and act. When that is the case, pray for wisdom and then make the decision that seems best in light of what you know of God’s will and the wisdom you already have.
Do not be surprised if God does not carry on a conversation with you in answer to your questions. He will communicate his wisdom to you in the way that is best for you, at the time that is best. Trust him and be patient.
However long it takes, in the end learning to seek God for wisdom will enable you to know and trust God more.
Jeremiah 9:23–24: “Thus says the LORD: ‘Let not the wise man boast in his wisdom, let not the mighty man boast in his might, let not the rich man boast in his riches, but let him who boasts boast in this, that he understands and knows me, that I am the LORD who practices steadfast love, justice, and righteousness in the earth. For in these things I delight, declares the LORD.’” (ESV)
What is different when we inquire of God at night?
Yesterday morning I awoke around 2:30 and began thinking. I thought about things that regularly occupy my mind: the ministry of our church and what I am preaching and writing. My thoughts were so clear and focused that I gave up on sleep and prayed and thought productively until 4:30 and then got out of bed and went to my computer to record my thoughts and think more. I outlined this post.
It is not unusual for me to do some of my best thinking in the middle of the night, as well as some of my worst. I learned decades ago that fear is worst in the middle of the night. Psalm 91:5 refers to “the terror of the night.” Whether positive or negative, then, something about our mind and spirit in the deep of night is more intense, clear, and focused.
Thoughts of a different quality
During the night our human spirit seems to be more awake, active, even dominant as the mysterious world of our dreams unfolds. But I do not think such spiritual sensitivity is simply a matter of dreaming. Rather, I think our spiritual perceptions can be stronger at that time.
God spoke to David during the night. David said, “I bless the LORD who gives me counsel; in the night also my heart instructs me” (Psalm 16:7, ESV). The NASB20 translates that, “Indeed, my mind instructs me in the night.” So the Hebrew adverb ’aph can be translated “also” as well as “indeed.”
The example of Jesus
Isaiah’s Servant of the Lord, namely Jesus, experienced the same thing. Isaiah 50:4–5 says, “The Lord GOD has given me the tongue of those who are taught, that I may know how to sustain with a word him who is weary. Morning by morning he awakens; he awakens my ear to hear as those who are taught. The Lord GOD has opened my ear, and I was not rebellious; I turned not backward” (ESV). So the Father spoke to Jesus early in the morning.
Mark also records that. “And rising very early in the morning, while it was still dark, [Jesus] departed and went out to a desolate place, and there he prayed. And Simon and those who were with him searched for him, and they found him and said to him, ‘Everyone is looking for you.’ And he said to them, ‘Let us go on to the next towns, that I may preach there also, for that is why I came out’” (Mark 1:35–38). It appears that Jesus heard from the Father during that time of prayer that he was supposed to travel to preach elsewhere.
Choosing the Twelve
In Luke’s Gospel, the implication is unavoidable that God told Jesus whom to select as his twelve disciples during the deep of night.
Luke 6:12–13 says, “In these days [Jesus] went out to the mountain to pray, and all night he continued in prayer to God. And when day came, he called his disciples and chose from them twelve, whom he named apostles.”
Therefore the deep of night, or early morning, can be especially productive times to obtain the wisdom we seek.
All night is a long time
Long periods of prayer can also help. The verse above says Jesus prayed all night, which could mean I guess six to ten hours. If Jesus was focused most of that time on the identity of the twelve, that is a long time to receive just twelve names. With efficient communication, God could have voiced those names in less than a minute. But it lasted many hours.
By our measures God can be slow and long. When Moses ascended Mount Sinai to receive the Ten Commandments, he had to wait seven days before he could actually enter the cloud of glory. Exodus 24:15–16 says, “Then Moses went up on the mountain, and the cloud covered the mountain. The glory of the LORD dwelt on Mount Sinai, and the cloud covered it six days. And on the seventh day he called to Moses out of the midst of the cloud.”
It could be that it will require an extended time of prayer for you to receive the wisdom you seek.
Takeaway
The problem: We are busy and distracted in a normal day, and that makes it hard to get clarity, connection, and focus with God. We may fail to give God our undivided attention for a long enough time for him to do all he desires in us as he imparts wisdom. Moreover, our culture and technology condition us to want everything instantly.
The solution: To obtain the wisdom we need, sometimes we need to inquire of God deep into the night or in the dark of early morning.
Jeremiah 9:23–24: “Thus says the LORD: ‘Let not the wise man boast in his wisdom, let not the mighty man boast in his might, let not the rich man boast in his riches, but let him who boasts boast in this, that he understands and knows me, that I am the LORD who practices steadfast love, justice, and righteousness in the earth. For in these things I delight, declares the LORD.’” (ESV)
When we inquire of God for wisdom, the Bible helps us find answers.
When you seek particular wisdom from God, Scripture should play an important role.
Psalm 119:24 says, “Your testimonies are my delight; they are my counselors.”
Therefore as you seek wisdom, God’s words can counsel you.
Likewise Psalm 119:98–99 says, “Your commandment makes me wiser than my enemies, for it is ever with me. 99 I have more understanding than all my teachers, for your testimonies are my meditation.”
Therefore God’s commands not only tell us what God expects of us, but they also make us wise, which is again what we seek. To get that wisdom verse 99 says you should engage with Scripture in meditation. Repeat it over and over, break it down word by word and phrase by phrase, imagine what the words picture, draw implications from its assertions, trust its promises, think of ways to apply it.
Moreover, ask the Lord where to read Scripture to find the answer to your inquiry. That guidance can come in various ways. He might guide your heart in that very session of prayer, or he might do so a month or a year later. He might create an interest in reading a particular book of the Bible. Or as you follow your annual Bible-reading plan, he might providentially bring you to that place in Scripture where the needed wisdom lies. If you maintain your faith and your inquiry, your eyes will fall sooner or later on Bible verses that help answer your question, and you will recognize them as such.
How Scripture imparts the wisdom we seek
Therefore, when you ask God for wisdom on any matter, read the Bible with that question in mind, search Scripture for what it says on the subject, and meditate on relevant passages.
This is important for four reasons:
1. God might have spoken directly to the subject in his Word, and if not, he has given relevant principles.
For example, if a man asks for wisdom about how to improve his marriage, he can find specific help in Ephesians 5:22–33. On the other hand, if a woman asks for wisdom about how to protect her dog from catching ticks, she will not find anything in the Bible on that specific topic, but there might be relevant principles.
2. Setting your mind on Scripture brings the presence of God within.
Regardless of whether the Bible speaks to the question, whenever we read Scripture long enough with humility, faith, and reverence, our awareness of his presence increases. Our fellowship with God becomes more real, and the mind of Christ prevails in our mind. God’s presence and the wisdom we seek go well together.
3. Whatever Scripture says shapes you with wisdom in general and thus makes your mind a good environment for wisdom.
A heart filled with wisdom is a conducive place, a suitable environment, for the revealing of further wisdom on any specific subject. When you saturate your mind with Scripture, your mind develops an ecosystem of wisdom where further wisdom finds rich soil for growth.
4. Reading Scripture sanctifies you.
Jesus said, “Sanctify them in the truth; your word is truth” (John 17:17).
Sanctification puts you in a right place with God and thus better able to receive from him.
The Bible tells several stories of people who sought information from God even though they had no intention of having a holy relationship with God. The results were negative.
For example, 1 Samuel 28 tells how King Saul inquired of God when he and his army faced an overwhelming enemy. But Saul had long been far from God and hardened in heart, so the Lord did not answer.
Still, Saul wanted information about the future, so he went to a fortune teller to see if she could contact the dead for the help he wanted. He had reached the ultimate, muddy bottom of his pathetic life, and he died in battle hours later.
(For other examples of people who inquired of God for information while rejecting God’s will for their lives, see Jeremiah 42; Ezekiel 20:1–32 [especially v. 31], and 1 Kings 22:1–40.)
Because we sin in many ways, we always need God’s counsel not only for our specific inquiry, but for the general sanctification of our lives. Holiness makes us better receivers of wisdom.
Takeaway
When we pray for wisdom, we should approach Scripture as our counselor and be open to all God wants to say to us, not just the answer to our question.
We should desire the full light of Jesus in his Word, both the street light and the focused laser beam. The way to have eyes that see and ears that hear God’s wisdom is to hunger for all he says, in all ways, about all things.
Jeremiah 9:23–24: “Thus says the LORD: ‘Let not the wise man boast in his wisdom, let not the mighty man boast in his might, let not the rich man boast in his riches, but let him who boasts boast in this, that he understands and knows me, that I am the LORD who practices steadfast love, justice, and righteousness in the earth. For in these things I delight, declares the LORD.’” (ESV)
