One of the greatest gifts God gives a person is his loving rebuke.
This week I saw on national news the story of a young woman who was murdered because she got in the wrong car. She had requested a ride-share from Uber. A car pulled up and stopped where she was waiting, and she assumed it was her ride, without confirming the license plate or the driver’s name. She got in the car and disappeared. All this was recorded on a nearby security video. Days later the police found her body.
Imagine if a friend had been waiting with her at the curb when that wrong car had pulled up. Imagine if that friend realized before the car door opened that this was not the right car or driver, but she said nothing because she didn’t want to tell her friend she was wrong or offend her by telling her what to do. Take it a step farther and imagine that she actually knew that the driver was a murderer whose mug shot she had seen on the news.
Such a scenario is ridiculous to imagine because what friend would be that uncaring? Sincere love always seeks the good of another, and that means not only telling them the truths they may not want to hear but even rebuking them sharply when necessary.
Rebuking love
This is the kind of love God continually gives people. It is one of his most gracious gifts to sinners. Psalm 25:8 says, “Good and upright is the LORD; therefore he instructs sinners in the way.” It is so important and necessary that he mercifully speaks warnings in abundance. He tells you the truth, including the hard truths you may not want to hear. He warns you. “Don’t get in that car! It’s the wrong car!” In love, he rebukes you.
Jesus said, “Those whom I love I rebuke and discipline” (Revelation 3:19). Jesus rebukes people. Webster’s defines rebuke as, “To criticize or reprove sharply; reprimand.” Whom does Jesus rebuke? According to this Scripture, he rebukes those he loves.
He rebukes you with 100 percent accuracy. He knows all things—all potential harm, all who would do you evil, all your weaknesses and sins. He knows the future. He knows what is right and wrong, wise or foolish. He knows Satan and his deceptions. He knows the world and its seductive pleasures.
When the Lord must offend
In the Gospels you see Jesus continually saying things that will offend somebody, if not everybody. Jesus was not trying to win a popularity contest by his words; he was trying to save people. When Peter tried to keep him from going to Jerusalem and the cross, Jesus “rebuked Peter and said, ‘Get behind me, Satan! For you are not setting your mind on the things of God, but on the things of man’” (Mark 8:33).
When his disciples worried about where their next meal would come from, Jesus said, “O you of little faith, why are you discussing among yourselves the fact that you have no bread?” (Matthew 16:8).
When a crowd sought him following in boats when he withdrew from them, Jesus told them, “Truly, truly, I say to you, you are seeking me, not because you saw signs, but because you ate your fill of the loaves. Do not work for the food that perishes, but for the food that endures to eternal life” (John 6:26–27).
In love, Jesus said the uncomfortable things people needed to hear.
When God must harshly offend
In fact, the context of Revelation 3:19—“Those whom I love I rebuke and discipline”—is Jesus’s delivering one of the harshest rebukes found in the New Testament: his warning to the church in Laodicea:
“15 I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either cold or hot! 16 So because you are lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I am going to vomit you out of my mouth! 17 Because you say, ‘I am rich and have acquired great wealth, and need nothing,’ but do not realize that you are wretched, pitiful, poor, blind, and naked, 18 take my advice and buy gold from me refined by fire so you can become rich! Buy from me white clothing so you can be clothed and your shameful nakedness will not be exposed, and buy eye salve to put on your eyes so you can see! 19 All those I love, I rebuke and discipline. So be earnest and repent!” (NET)
Imagine Jesus appearing to you in a vision and instead of speaking comforting words like “I will never leave you or forsake you” he said, “I feel like vomiting you out of my mouth”! Would you feel loved? Would you feel cherished? But soul-saving love is precisely what Jesus was giving the Laodiceans. That is what he said: “Those whom I love I rebuke.”
Fellowship can follow rebuke
Indeed, Jesus followed up his loving words of rebuke to the Laodiceans with loving words of invitation and promise to the very same church:
“20 Listen! I am standing at the door and knocking! If anyone hears my voice and opens the door I will come into his home and share a meal with him, and he with me. 21 I will grant the one who conquers permission to sit with me on my throne, just as I too conquered and sat down with my Father on his throne. 22 The one who has an ear had better hear what the Spirit says to the churches.” (Revelation 3:15–22, NET)
Jesus said I want to fellowship with you. I want to make you a conqueror.
Our way and God’s way
Our way: We misunderstand correction as rejection. We don’t want to hear about our faults or be told we must change. We may suppose that because grace covers all our sins then God must love us unconditionally and not rebuke us. We may suppose that because God is gracious, our “performance” doesn’t matter. We may suppose that talking about sin is just negative and unhelpful.
God’s way: For our good, Jesus tells us everything we need to hear, including the truth about our faults, including everything we need to know about God and his will. But the severity of his correction is determined by the degree of the sinner’s pride, stubbornness, unbelief, or honesty and willingness to repent. Do you have a hard heart or a broken heart?
Life principle: We must not misinterpret correction as rejection or hatred. If all you want to hear from God or his spokesmen are positive words of comfort and blessing, you are making a serious mistake. If you close your ears to the hard truths, you may soon be getting in the wrong car.
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—Craig Brian Larson