We should pray for wisdom without presumption about how God will answer, because he answers prayers in countless different ways and at times we do not expect.
If you are like me, you head into a time of asking God for wisdom with a hope about how and when he will answer. If I fast and pray and clear my calendar to do nothing but seek him with a listening ear, surely he will give me the wisdom I seek that day, hopefully within a few hours.
Moreover, my earnest hope is that I will “hear God.” That is, that words and thoughts will form in my mind with a clarity and emphasis that could suggest these thoughts are from God rather than me, giving the answer I seek. Or I will read the Bible and fall upon verses that leap off the page with exactly what I need to do. Or that day someone will say something to me that providentially, unknown to him, is “the word of the Lord.”
Disappointed
Expectations like these are why I am usually disappointed on the day I seek God earnestly for wisdom. I have heard plenty of stories by people who have such experiences, but they are rare for me, and strangely, seem more rare the older I get. I suggest you do not base your expectations on my experiences, but if you can identify with me, let them encourage you. If God does not give prompt, clear direction when you seek him for guidance and counsel, you are not unusual.
For this reason I strongly counsel you to pray for wisdom without trying to control how God answers. Have an open mind to how and when he will give the wisdom you seek. He almost certainly will not do as you expect, and he probably will answer every new request for wisdom differently than how he has answered previous inquiries. God likes variety.
You never know
For example, look in the Gospels at all the different ways Jesus healed people. He might lay his hand on the sick person, or merely speak a healing command, or spit on the ground to make mud and apply it to the blind eyes, or stick his fingers in deaf ears, or spit on his finger and touch a mute tongue, or healing virtue would flow to those who touched his cloak.
When we pray for wisdom, there are countless situations through which God can breathe the answer. A book. A conversation. A wise mentor. Your evaluation of recent efforts. A dream. Your analytical thinking or research. Prayer. Reading the Bible. A seminar, webinar, conference. Practice. Your gradual, one-percent improvement each time you do what you are trying to learn and seek to improve for the next time.
Or through an angel. Okay, that might not be the most likely answer, but that is how Daniel received his answer in Daniel 10. Again, you never know, and you probably cannot guess. God surprises us if we pray with faith and keep the faith for as long as necessary (James 1:5–8).
Keeping Faith
As I said in a previous post, I have been focused in prayer for over three years on getting wisdom for how to win converts and enfold them in our church. God has taught me much in that time, but I have not yet had the breakthrough insights I need.
Nevertheless, I know they are coming, for I believe. (James 1:5–8, Matthew 21:22, which literally reads, “All things whatever you ask in prayer, believing, you will receive.”) Scripture calls Abraham the man of faith (Galatians 3:9, ESV), and he had to wait decades for some answers, and longer for others, even hundreds of years after he died.
Daniel had to wait three weeks for the wisdom he sought (Daniel 10:13). But the reason he had to wait was the angelic messenger bearing his answer faced satanic interference that delayed him. Otherwise Daniel would have had his answer promptly (Daniel 10:12). That tells me there are innumerable reasons unknown to us why an answer to our prayer can be delayed. And there are innumerable means God may use to give the answer. God sent an angel to Daniel, and he may send a human to give your answer. It could be anyone, communicating in any way, in-person or through any media.
Pray for Wisdom without Presumption
Therefore it is essential that you maintain your faith and keep seeking an answer (through prayer, research, practice, or however) for as long as necessary. Do not presume to require God to answer in a particular way.
Be open, flexible, persistent. Keep exploring, seeking.
And stay alert to what may be the divine answer you seek. In other words, if you are tending sheep in the desert and see a bush on fire that keeps burning and is not consumed, turn aside and pay attention (Exodus 3). Since I am seeking wisdom for effective evangelism, I should take notice if someone I know says out of the blue, “I just read a tremendous book on evangelism, and I am already seeing fruit from what I learned in it.”
Pray for wisdom without presumption about how God will answer. I am not disappointed when I pray for wisdom with faith and persistence and do not require that God answer me in extraordinary ways. His wisdom sooner or later enters my heart (Proverbs 2:10).
And remember, learning to pray for wisdom for everything that matters to you is an important way to know God practically, in daily experience, as someone you can rely on to help you. Knowing God and his ways is not just an intellectual experience; it is also a lived out experience of prayer, trust, and dependence. If we know how to explain God doctrinally but do not know how to depend on him for what we need in life, we are missing something important and wonderful.
Jeremiah 9:23–24: “Thus says the LORD: ‘Let not the wise man boast in his wisdom, let not the mighty man boast in his might, let not the rich man boast in his riches, but let him who boasts boast in this, that he understands and knows me, that I am the LORD who practices steadfast love, justice, and righteousness in the earth. For in these things I delight, declares the LORD.’” (ESV)