True disciples take up the cross and die daily to this world, renouncing all things and people for the sake of Christ.
Jesus said:
“{26} If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple. {27} Whoever does not bear his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple…. {33} So therefore, any one of you who does not renounce all that he has cannot be my disciple.” (Luke 14:26–27, 33; ESV)
Three times Jesus repeats the words “cannot be my disciple.” He means what he says and repeats it lest anyone think otherwise. True disciples must take up the cross and die daily to this world, renouncing—always in principle and sometimes, if God leads, in reality—all things, all people, and even their own lives for the sake of Christ.
What does Jesus mean by “hate”?
Jesus uses the word hate here in a hyperbolic, figurative way to emphasize a point. This wording was an idiom in his culture that meant “love less.” It meant to love one thing so much less than another that there was no comparison.
We know that Jesus is using the word hate figuratively because he commands elsewhere in Scripture not to hate. He commands elsewhere to love all people including our family members. He tells us to give thanks for the good things he has put in this world including its righteous pleasures. He commands us to seek our own eternal good in ways obedient to God.
For example:
First Timothy 5:8 says, “If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” (ESV)
Ephesians 5:28 says, “Husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself” (ESV). Here God commands men not only to love a family member, but also to be motivated to do so partially by self-interest.
Titus 2:4 says: “Train the young women to love their husbands and children” (ESV).
First John 2:9, 11 says: “Whoever says he is in the light and hates his brother is still in darkness…. But whoever hates his brother is in the darkness and walks in the darkness, and does not know where he is going, because the darkness has blinded his eyes” (ESV). Similarly, see 1 John 3:15 and 4:20.
First Timothy 4:3–5 says that some false teachers “forbid marriage and require abstinence from foods that God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth. For everything created by God is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving, for it is made holy by the word of God and prayer.” (ESV)
The world
The New Testament says strong things about the world and how true disciples must relate to it.
Jesus said, “Whoever loves his life loses it, and whoever hates his life in this world will keep it for eternal life.” (John 12:25, ESV)
This verse helps us understand why Jesus taught what he did about being ready for his Second Coming. When he comes again, our reaction to his coming shows what we love most, whether we most love our lives in this world or whether we most love our Savior and his Kingdom.
First John 2:15–17 says: “Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life—is not from the Father but is from the world. And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever” (ESV). According to this Scripture, love for the Father and love for the world are mutually exclusive.
James 4:4 says: “You adulterous people! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God” (ESV). Scripture does not describe God’s true children as his enemies. James uses language meant to cause the deepest possible alarm in his hearers.
Explaining the Parable of the Soils, Jesus said, “As for what fell among the thorns, they are those who hear, but as they go on their way they are choked by the cares and riches and pleasures of life, and their fruit does not mature.” (Luke 8:14, ESV) The soil with thorns was one of three soils in the parable that describe people who end up with crop failure, who ultimately are not saved.
True disciples and the return of Jesus
Our readiness for the Second Coming of Jesus and our attitude toward this world are joined. Jesus warned:
“Just as it was in the days of Lot—they were eating and drinking, buying and selling, planting and building, but on the day when Lot went out from Sodom, fire and sulfur rained from heaven and destroyed them all—so will it be on the day when the Son of Man is revealed. On that day, let the one who is on the housetop, with his goods in the house, not come down to take them away, and likewise let the one who is in the field not turn back. Remember Lot’s wife. Whoever seeks to preserve his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life will keep it.” (Luke 17:28–33, ESV)
Lot’s wife
Jesus says that what happened to Lot’s wife is important. It is a picture of what will happen to many at his Second Coming. True disciples of Jesus cannot follow in her steps.
Her story begins with the angels urgently trying to get Lot and family to flee from Sodom and Gomorrah, two wicked cities on the brink of incineration. Genesis 19:15–26 says:
“As morning dawned, the angels urged Lot, saying, ‘Up! Take your wife and your two daughters who are here, lest you be swept away in the punishment of the city.’ But he lingered. So the men seized him and his wife and his two daughters by the hand, the LORD being merciful to him, and they brought him out and set him outside the city. And as they brought them out, one said, ‘Escape for your life. Do not look back or stop anywhere in the valley. Escape to the hills, lest you be swept away….’ The sun had risen on the earth when Lot came to Zoar. Then the LORD rained on Sodom and Gomorrah sulfur and fire from the LORD out of heaven. And he overthrew those cities, and all the valley, and all the inhabitants of the cities, and what grew on the ground. But Lot’s wife, behind him, looked back, and she became a pillar of salt.”
She is exhibit A of a false disciple who loves the world and has not died to life in the world. At the Second Coming of Jesus, a “Lot’s wife” believer in Jesus would gaze at the things of the world she regretted losing instead of joyfully lifting her eyes to Jesus in the air.
The power of the cross of Jesus in renouncing the world
Jesus says that true disciples must renounce any love that competes with their love for him. Luke 14:33: “Any one of you who does not renounce all that he has cannot be my disciple.”
According the Webster’s dictionary, to renounce means to declare one’s abandonment of a claim, right, or possession; to give up, refuse, or resign usually by formal declaration. Christians make that formal declaration by being baptized in water, symbolizing their choice to die to self and this world and to live for God and his will.
Renouncing the world is not easy. We need God’s help, and he gives it in fullest measure. That help comes in our conscious decision to unite with Jesus Christ in his death on the cross.
The apostle Paul wrote: “Far be it from me to boast except in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, by which the world has been crucified to me, and I to the world.” (Galatians 6:14, ESV)
The New Living Translation gives a helpful paraphrase of that verse: “As for me, may I never boast about anything except the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ. Because of that cross, my interest in this world has been crucified, and the world’s interest in me has also died.”
Because Jesus unselfishly died for me, I have the motivation to die for him. He has given the example. He gave all for me. How could I hold anything back from him? Through his example and by his power living in me, true disciples of Jesus can renounce this world and everything in it so we might have Christ. He is worth infinitely more than anything in this world.